I firmly believe that VISIBILITY is one of the most thankless and most vital forms of Daily Activism
Need the quick takeaway?
- Here is how you can help, fix the thankless bit. A few short easy steps, type *two words, you’re done! (*Thank You)
- Thank activists, thank online community founders, thank those who inspire and uplift you or expend energy trying to
- Thank other activists, if you are one. That’s how you grow community… it’s not a “Dance Off” from different sides of the room. But do so authentically, don’t be a self serving spam-bot!
- Why’s it thankless? Because you never know who saw you
- Why’s it vital? Because you never know who saw you
For the back story on why it’s the best takeaway you’ve had in ages, read on…
First, a mysterious graphic to draw you in
Why? That’s at the end haha!
As an introvert I read, research, ponder, observe, appreciate… SO many things, yet rarely take the time to reach outwards. Last year, in an attempt to challenge some of the ruts and plateaus in personal growth this must bring…
- I made it a goal to begin saying Thank You to people who contributed to my day to day feelings of enjoyment, or belonging
- Meaning say Thank You authentically and directly to … random people, for taking the time and making the effort to provide, something intended to raise up other people in some way. (I do NOT mean writing to celebrities, they get enough praise and attention)
- This goal horrifies me. I tend towards short concise emails and hit send before my inner critic catches on and makes me wuss out. If someone replies I get anxiety and just respond with a smile and thumbs up emoji.
Why? Whats the big deal?
Maybe you do this kinda stuff already? Maybe it’s effortless? Or maybe, if you’ve ever been silenced, shutdown, or minimized significantly, either as a child or through an adult relationship, you’ll know how uncomfortable it can be to put yourself back out there and be visible again.
Here is what I’ve learned, from lived experience and from many heart to hearts with friends, who also engage in daily activism through visibility…
To be visible is to be vulnerable.
Don’t be fooled by the performance of it, by swagger or designer labels. We all have our safety shields.
To be visible is to be at risk, putting your core identity on display, is the ultimate form of bravery.
So for you… Yes YOU strutting your visible self out on the street. Know that you’d get a nod from me and my best Ohhhh Heck Yes! smile, for a soul already braver than most. Because I know how such moments fortify us, through those other moments, when we’d give anything to just be invisible.
Oh look here it is… my best Ohhhh Heck Yes! smile to help you picture it, aimed in your direction.
As we’re on smiles, here’s a Big Proud Joyous Grin too…
… at being able to support and escort this long time friend, on her first Trans March as an “out” Trans-woman at age 50. A friend who survived the violent attacks on her earlier attempts to shine, and a moment when “ending it” seemed like a better option than the slower more painful death of the spirit from living in fear, shame and isolation, trying to be invisible. PTSD is no joke.
So like I said earlier VISIBILITY. Brave. Vulnerable.
Fueled by smiles. Making the world a better place. Be thankful.